I understand why you may not want to go for extended periods of time without drinking – I’m talking about several days to a few weeks. It’s because alcohol is your best friend. It gives you comfort when you’re feeling mad or sad. It makes you feel safe when you are scared. It makes you feel joy or euphoria when you feel bored or unfulfilled. But this is a possessive, jealous friend – and it doesn’t want to let you go – so it keeps you dependent on it – either emotionally or physically to make sure you can’t leave.
You won’t be able to make your life better so that you can “be with” your friend less, because it keeps you emotionally weak. You’re more emotionally sensitive and unstable, you’re more paranoid thinking that people don’t like you or are out to get you – you become a victim. And for some of us, it makes you physically sick if you try to get away from it, so you have to keep turning to it in order to relieve the shakes and the throbbing head and body.
But YOU have to break the pattern. For some it starts slowly – a day or two here or there, and then building up to more and more days without drinking. But once you get there, you’ll see how wonderful it can be.
Extended periods of alcohol-free days:
- Clear your mind
- Allow you to think more accurately
- Give you the confidence to know that you can deal with life without turning to the bottle
- Provide the opportunity for you to learn and develop the SKILLS necessary to deal with life’s challenges
- Give you more energy – physically and mentally
- Assuming you don’t turn to food for comfort, you’ll lose weight
- You’ll look younger & healthier…your skin looks better, your eyes look brighter and you lose the bloat in your face and abdominals
- You’ll have a stronger resolve to act on your action items and strive towards you goals, whether they are fitness, professional, relationship, etc.
- Enhance your enthusiasm to realize your dream
- Help you develop more quality relationships because you aren’t isolating (something your possessive friend, alcohol, definitely does not want.)
So go ahead and plan a time to get started. You may want to start out with only 2 or 3 days if it’s been a while since you’ve gone a day without drinking, but then build up to a week or two – and then more. Find an accountability partner or support group. Our own MODER8 Support Community is a great one. But don’t put it off much longer. Pick a day and commit.