treading-waterSo it’s the middle of January and I’m wondering just how strong your commitment is now toward accomplishing your New Year goals. Do you find yourself just sort of treading water and not really knowing which way to swim in order to get where you want to go?

What IS your goal or desire anyway? Did you intend to lose weight or cut back on drinking, or spending, or any of a multitude of bad habits – but you just can’t get motivated or decide WHERE to start?

Start by thinking back on the things that have worked for you in the past. Pull out on old calendar page or plan, or just think about the things that used to get you pumped and focused. As my therapist has always said, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just put the wheel back on the car!

These are some of the things that you may have used effectively in the past. Choose some that have worked for you, and begin to schedule them into your plan…starting today!:

  • Diet – Does a certain way of eating help you to get in the right frame of mind? Remember that how you start your day impacts the way the rest of you day unfolds – so if you start with a healthy hi-protein breakfast, you’re more likely to stay on target with your discipline for the rest of the day.
  • What you drink  – get in the habit of drinking non-alcoholic beverages that make you feel better – either because they are more healthy, such as mineral water, or because they are soothing, such as a tasty herb tea.
  • Exercise- starting you day with at least a little physical activity (or more if you can schedule it into your mornings) will help you to feel more balanced and energetic for the rest of the day.
  • Music – perhaps incorporating some type of music into your day depending on what type of mood you would like to encourage at the moment, such as high temp dance music to get you pumped up, or some slow jazz or spa music if you want to relax or focus.
  • Reading – reading is a great form of escape – and you can either do it for educational or self-improvement purposes, or shear recreation, like a good suspense novel.
  • Follow a routine – including some type of routine into your day makes it easier to simply take action without having to think about it.
  • Meditation – meditation is an instant way to center, calm yourself or get peaceful, and to “hear” some other direction or ideas from either your subconscious, or if you are spiritual, God or your creator.
  • Working on a project – Working on a project is a great way to focus your mind, stay on target with other goals, but also keeps you from turning to bad habits because you’re too busy. Plus, the more productive you are, the more dopamine you’ll release and the better you’ll feel. (Note, sometimes after being extremely productive, you may feel the need to exercise, meditate, or other relaxing activity to decompress naturally and in a healthy way).
  • Volunteering – nothing helps you to get out of your own funk than to volunteer or help someone else.
  • Target staying Alcohol-Free (AF) and goal focused.
  • Staying abstinent or program focused during the week and save the weekends for letting go (in MODERATION!)
  • Contact someone that you KNOW has helped to get you on track in the past.

And plan it all out on your calendar!!

If you aren’t a planning kind of a person (I don’t understand these people but I know they are out there! LOL), then brainstorm a GROUP of activities that you can do or focus on in a day, and look over that list when you’re feeling unmotivated or considering turning to your negative escapes.

REMEMBER-you’ve done it before, you can do it again. Just do what works, and start it NOW!